I am in family court can a judge order my kids have to be dragged to contact even if kicking & screaming?

Question by Jane: I am in family court can a judge order my kids have to be dragged to contact even if kicking & screaming?
I have been going through court for 2 years now as my ex partner is trying to gain access to my kids after over 6 years of no contact with them what so ever! He had always had my address & even phone number but never bothered no cards gifts in fact he moved out of the area he is with someone else & had more kids. He has never paid CSA & even when order by the courts to make indirect contact etc has never done or stuck to it. However when this is said to the judge he is not willing to do anything about it only states we need to look at the present & to the future but if I don’t stick to something that gets address! I have also raised many issues about him & his commitment, drugs etc to Cafcass & the courts but none of this has ever been address as well. The kids have all been asked on their own away from me if they want to see him & at first my youngest did have a little interest. The other 2 didn’t and therefore it was just my youngest that was order to have contact with him. When the time came for said contact he had became very upset changed his mind & no longer wanted to go. Cafcass then asked all the kids on their own if they wanted to go they all said no why they didn’t want to they said because they just didn’t want to she even asked them if I had said anything to them or told them to say no to which they also said no! Therefore it when back to court where all of the above was again ignored & the judge ordered that the kids have to go. Even if they don’t want to they are upset they should me made to go & even dragged kicking & screaming. Surely this wrong on so many levels I feel like I have been backed into a corner and nobody listens to me at all. I think he should have to make an effort show commitment that he is no longer on drugs pay CSA & stick to the court orders or it is pointless making them. Also why even ask the kids their feelings & if they want to go if they are going to ignore them as well. I would just like to know if anyone could help me or has any ideas or has even bee through the same thing. Thanks : D

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